Wellbeing These Two Sisters Want You To Fail Spectacularly Self-control, grit and persistence are all seen as admirable traits that help us get on at work – and in life – but a new book says reframing failure as a positive is vital if we’re going to avoid burnout. By Natalie Cornish Wellbeing Self-control, grit and persistence are all seen as admirable traits that help us get on at work – and in life – but a new book says reframing failure as a positive is vital if we’re going to avoid burnout. By Natalie Cornish Previous article Creating A Bigger, Better Story For Australian Women Next article It Could Be, Like, Time To Ditch All The Likes There’s a paragraph in new book Burnout: The Secret to Solving the Stress Cycle that makes you stop and think. Human behaviourist and sex educator, Emily Nagoski and her twin sister Amelia, are talking about knowing when to walk away from a job or a relationship. They say there’s an innate “quiet intuition” that tells us to move on. “Humans, especially women, have an extraordinary capacity to ignore this voice,” they write. Why? “We have been taught that letting go of a goal is the same as failing. If we ‘fail’ to achieve a goal, it’s because there is something wrong with us. We didn’t fight hard enough. We didn’t ‘believe’.”Failure is confrontational and unnerving, so it’s no wonder many of us feel uncomfortable in its company. Unfortunately, avoiding failure – or berating ourselves when the inevitable happens – is contributing to the plague of the modern age: burnout. Burnout: The Secret to Solving the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski is published by Vermillion. betteryou Best Of Future Women Self Two ducks and a Chick walk into the wilderness By Odessa Blain Wellbeing How can you be ‘authentic’ at work? By Steph Tisdell Wellbeing Awww, you shouldn’t have. By FW Wellbeing We’ve discovered burnout’s kryptonite By FW Wellbeing How to be proactive without rushing through life By Michelle Brasier Wellbeing Why an HRT shortage is a mental health issue By FW Wellbeing Burn bright, not out By Eden Timbery Wellbeing Potential over protection: The secret to setting boundaries at work By Eden Timbery Your inbox just got smarter If you’re not a member, sign up to our newsletter to get the best of Future Women in your inbox.
